The Challenge: Frequently, parents and caregivers experience recurring stress when they fall into the “control trap.” This is where adults feel responsible for “making” their children perform actions such as cleaning their room or doing their homework.
The Solution: We apply mental gymnastics by looking at the scenario from a completely different perspective. Clients learn to drop the rope and not engage in a game of tug-of-war. This involves many small shifts in thinking that add up to create a more peaceful experience. This includes acknowledging that there is a struggle, accepting that you have an issue, identifying a high-value reward, and incorporating specific yet easy communication with the child to encourage a more positive outcome.
The Outcome: Adults feel relief when they learn to support their children without force, increasing confidence in their ability to manage their family peacefully. Additionally, children become empowered by electing and experiencing their own choices, connected to specific results.